If you’re only in Iceland for a weekend or two, by all means go out around 1:00 and enjoy the nightlife, but it doesn’t matter where you are before 4:00, since it’s unlikely you’ll be able to sustain an early approach. I did all my venue experimentation early in the night, but come 3:00, I was on my way to my favorite spot to get ready for real work. All you need is one girl to bite by closing time to arrange for the afterparty move.
When you’re ready to approach, use simple, indirect openers. My favorite opener, which works on just about any girl, is “You don’t look like you’re from here.” Squint your eyes then make up another country that you “think” she is actually from. Act surprised when she says you’re totally wrong. Inquire about her ancestral lineage and ask her to say a few words in Icelandic as a playful way to give proof that she really is from Iceland. By that point she should ask where you’re from and how long you’re staying in Iceland (if not, she’s not interested).
In most countries a girl will get turned off when you say you’re only visiting her city for a short while, such as in Colombia where I’ve advised men to be as vague as possible about their departure dates. Not so in Iceland . Since girls value privacy in a town where she runs into former lovers on a weekly basis, she’ll be excited to hear that you’re going to leave soon. Because I was staying so long, I actually insinuated that I was leaving sooner that I was, the first time I’ve ever done so. Iceland could be the only country in the world where the women don’t like it when you stay.
While opening Icelandic girls is incredibly easy, making headway with them is another matter. I had a lot of conversations that would simply die around three to five minutes, especially early in the night. I’d go on and on about my observations or opinions and she would just stare at me and nod, offering absolutely nothing that I could use.
Only if she has lived abroad will she respond in a social way that you’re used to. For that reason I became averse to opening girls before they were at their maximum drunkenness, when ironically they were more capable of having a conversation. Your chances of getting a basic chat off the ground after four a.m. is dramatically higher than before.
The main reason it’s hard to converse with an Icelandic girl is that she’s so used to meeting people who already know her friends. I noticed that most Icelanders start conversations by talking about who they know and what school they went to. A ten-minute conversation is just about guaranteed.
She likely won’t have the tools to build a connection with a completely random man who isn’t connected to her life or social circle in some way, regardless of how good his conversational skills are. It doesn’t mean she won’t fuck you (she definitely will), but it does mean she won’t do so from the value you’ve built through a long conversation. What you must do in Iceland is go back to the Stone Age by using less language and more persistence in dragging her back to your cave.
The second reason it’s so hard to have conversations is that you’ll be interrupted every other minute, since she literally knows half the people in the bar. She won’t be so keen to resume the conversation with you especially if you’ve been talking for a short while, which will probably be the case since the interruption will come soon. Thankfully, at the end of the night, most of her friends will have already left or have been neutralized by too much alcohol. Approaching at that time is money because the chances of an interruption are greatly reduced.
Keep all your conversations basic and refrain from teasing too hard. Hit her with questions about things you’ve seen during the day. Joke around by asking if Icelanders really believe that elves and trolls live in the hills (many do). If there’s a dance floor and she’s in the mood to dance, use it, because it can only help you.
You’ll know you’re putting out the correct fun, laid-back vibe if Icelandic guys or girls are offering to buy you drinks. At first you may be reluctant to accept a drink from a stranger, but in Iceland it’s pretty close to an insult to refuse. Accept graciously. Think of Icelandic nightlife as a happy party where alcohol flows and strangers buy other strangers drinks. When it comes to buying girls drinks, though, I recommend you do it only after she buys you one first.
If she has bought you a drink and the conversation is still going after ten minutes, she probably has serious interest in you. Your instinct may be to get closer for a kiss, but you have to be careful about this. While touching and mild groping is acceptable, trying to kiss girls in bars shows you don’t understand how big of a problem gossip is on the island. While she’s a card-carrying feminist, she still doesn’t want the slut stain because her community is so small (it was common for me to repeatedly run into girls I had previously fucked).